This is a guest post by Timothy Ng who is a personal finance
Consumer spending habits are curious and ephemeral things. Analysts try to understand why we buy the things we buy, but it is often a difficult task. For many people there is a certain compulsion that leads us to purchasing things that we do not need or to buy things that might not be the best investment.
This is in part, why our economy has floundered in recent years with many people over their heads in credit card debt due to overspending. We seem to live in a world where many of us have a hard time knowing what things we need and what things we just want. A lot of us think that we need or deserve certain luxuries even if we cannot afford them. This slippery slope is exactly what causes financial problems in households all over the world.
How then should we figure out how to buy items when there are so many options in front of us each day? The first thing to do is to understand the difference between needs and desires. There are basic things that we need in order to maintain a normal and healthy lifestyle. We all need shelter, food, and clothing. What we do not need is a big expensive home, lots of fine dining, and designer clothes. That being said, there is a level of quality that comes into play when we purchase items that we should not ignore. Some things are worth spending a little extra money on, like buying quality clothing that will last for a long time or purchasing a nice home that suits the needs of your families over one that needs a lot of maintenance but is cheaper.
As consumers the first thing we do when we want to purchase something is enter into a complex decision making process. We look for value in the things that we buy, based on information that we gather from the world around us. This is where marketing comes into play. You might not think that product marketing effects you, but it surely does. There is so much marketing in the world around us that it would be nearly impossible for it to not inform our decisions. Whether you are driving down the road, surfing the web, or reading the newspaper you are constantly surrounded by product placement and subtle whispers in your ear to buy this or to buy that. These whispers can be so strong that you find yourself making choices based on them rather than on true evaluation of the cost and the value of an item or service.
Cost Per Calculation Method
In order to get around this barrage of marketing we have to come up with a way to evaluate or options that takes into account cost as the most important factor. This can be done by using the cost per use calculation method. This method is when you take the actual cost of something that you think you need and compare it to how often you will use that item. You can use this method for anything from a pair of shoes to a new house and it will help you figure out how much something will cost each time you use it. Then you can evaluate that smaller cost to see if your investment is actually worth the cost.
For example, let us say that you want to purchase a new pair of shoes with your credit card. The designer shoes that you want are $150 and can only be worn on special occasions because they are fashionable to the point of not being appropriate for work or everyday wear. So, if you spend $150 on those shoes and only wear them five times a year they wind up costing you $30 each time you wear them. That is a pretty expensive pair of shoes. Consider that you could purchase another pair of shoes, that also look good but are more appropriate for every day wear for $100. Those shoes could be worn ten times a year so they only cost $10 each time you wear them. Obviously, the less expensive shoes are the wiser choice not just because they cost less but because you will be able to wear them more often.
This same calculation can be used when purchasing much more expensive items like a home. If you have a family of five it is reasonable to want a four bedroom home. However, if you bought a five bedroom home you could have a guest room. If the four bedroom house costs $150,000 and the five bedroom costs $200,000 you would spend $50,000 extra on that fifth bedroom. If you have guests ten times a year for ten years you would spend $500 on housing your guests each time. That is a significant amount of money, it might be more financially sound to have your guests stay at a hotel, even if you pay for it yourself. On the other hand, it might be worth the investment to you because you enjoy having guests or because they help you out when they visit. If the grandparents come to visit and babysit the children so you can go away for work or pleasure or do handy work around the house, then the savings of having them stay at your house should also be considered.
If you can figure out how and why you spend your money you will be able to make better choices about your finances. Those who are careful about every single expenditure, not just the big purchases, are more likely to build a bit of wealth and comfortable standard of living. Whenever you consider purchasing anything take into consideration how much it will cost each time you use that item. You will also have to consider the quality of an item as it compares to the price because for some things quality is more important than others, like home appliances or vehicles. As long as you can keep your eye on your spending and your head in the game you will be a smarter consumer. Don't let all of that marketing lead you down the path, let your own wisdom and informed decision be your guide.
This article was written by Timothy Ng who is a regular personal finance writer and part of the team at Credit Card Finder, a 100% free Australian credit card comparison and application service. Visit the Credit Card Finder website for more information on budgeting tips.
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30 July 2010
29 July 2010
An attempt at saving intensity
Publishing that list yesterday made me realise that there are still many items in our budget that we can cut or reduce. I need to be honest with myself; every single time I make an unnecessary purchase I am delaying our progress towards our financial goals.
My Pretty Pennies hit the nail on the head in a post this week; for some reason it's hard to have the same 'gazelle' like intensity to saving, as it is to debt payoff. Why? I don't know.
Achieving our financial goals is very important to me and I need to find a way not to lose sight of that.
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My Pretty Pennies hit the nail on the head in a post this week; for some reason it's hard to have the same 'gazelle' like intensity to saving, as it is to debt payoff. Why? I don't know.
Achieving our financial goals is very important to me and I need to find a way not to lose sight of that.
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28 July 2010
How many things do I budget for?!
I'm working on a budget revamp; boredom has set in and I want to mix it up a little; I'm also aware that I make no provision in my budget for some items, like new glasses for example, which I will need eventually.
I've started out by writing down every single thing that we are paying for; the huge list is below.
PS. In 2009 I wrote a post about items, i.e. spending, that I had eliminated from my budget
Have you done this lately, written down every single expense that you have?
I've started out by writing down every single thing that we are paying for; the huge list is below.
- mortgage payments
- gas bills
- electricity bills
- council tax
- water bills
- house buildings insurance
- house contents insurance
- life insurance
- tv licence
- digital tv subscription
- telephone line rental
- mobile top ups
- books
- clothing
- stationery
- travel
- haircuts
- coffee out
- eating out
- garden plants
- house decor
- house repairs
- golf fees
- bus fares
- window cleaning
- gifts
- grocery
- daughters college fees
- daughters bus fares
- dentist
- glasses
- dry cleaning
- pension contributions
PS. In 2009 I wrote a post about items, i.e. spending, that I had eliminated from my budget
Have you done this lately, written down every single expense that you have?
27 July 2010
A look inside my wardrobe
This might qualify me for a 'most boring closet of clothes award' but this picture shows the full contents of my wardrobe {plus coats}
As you can see I wear mainly black and grey; I simply add jewellery or a scarf to brighten it up.
Last year I went on a shopping hiatus and de cluttered my wardrobe to less than 30 main items; now there are about 32.
I'm finding it quite easy to live with this many items and just adding the odd piece every now and again, however if there's a wedding or special occasion to attend in the future, then I will have to find something new; I currently have nothing suitable.
I'm trying to add £20 to a clothing fund {ING savings account} every month so that when I need to buy something new I already have the money; I'm planning my purchases in advance, at last!
How do you approach your clothing purchases? Could you live with this many items of clothing?
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As you can see I wear mainly black and grey; I simply add jewellery or a scarf to brighten it up.
Last year I went on a shopping hiatus and de cluttered my wardrobe to less than 30 main items; now there are about 32.
I'm finding it quite easy to live with this many items and just adding the odd piece every now and again, however if there's a wedding or special occasion to attend in the future, then I will have to find something new; I currently have nothing suitable.
I'm trying to add £20 to a clothing fund {ING savings account} every month so that when I need to buy something new I already have the money; I'm planning my purchases in advance, at last!
How do you approach your clothing purchases? Could you live with this many items of clothing?
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26 July 2010
Menu Plan Monday {Mac n Cheese}
Time for a confession; I've never made Macaroni Cheese, however my family is mad with anticipation as it's on the menu plan this week...lets hope it works out ok :-)
Monday: Veggie Pizza and Jackets
Tuesday: Macaroni Cheese
Wednesday: Chilli with Rice
Thursday: Chilli leftovers over nachos
Friday: Fish with vegetables {probably salmon}
Saturday: Mushroom Omelets
Sunday: Roast Chicken with roasted potatoes and vegetables
What's cooking in your house this week?
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Monday: Veggie Pizza and Jackets
Tuesday: Macaroni Cheese
Wednesday: Chilli with Rice
Thursday: Chilli leftovers over nachos
Friday: Fish with vegetables {probably salmon}
Saturday: Mushroom Omelets
Sunday: Roast Chicken with roasted potatoes and vegetables
What's cooking in your house this week?
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24 July 2010
Saturday Link Round Up: 24th July 2010
Hello and happy Saturday; here are just some of the posts I've enjoyed reading this week;
Have a great weekend and thanks for reading!
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- When you're in debt, but your partner is not at Girl with the Red Balloon
- Developing Multiple Streams of Income at The Digerati Life
- If you show me yours, I'll show you mine at Punch Debt in the Face
- 12 Ways I Don't Set an Example at Budgets are $exy
- 5S in Action - Organize and Simplify at Eliminate the Muda
- Is it better to be rich or wealthy? at Dinks Finance
Have a great weekend and thanks for reading!
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23 July 2010
Grocery budgets and simple meals
If you read my Menu Plan Monday posts you'll know that I'm not a fancy cook; we eat easy, simple to prepare meals nearly every day and a lot of the meals are repeated every week.
I once went through a stage of wanting to be a brilliant fancy cook, but soon got over it; it's just not me; I much prefer the Jamie Oliver simple approach to cooking; the easier the evening meal is to prepare the happier I am......and so it seems are my family :-)
Sticking to simple food choices can also keep your costs down, for example, a bowl of spaghetti with a homemade tomato sauce and ciabatta is filling and extremely cheap to make.
After many ups and downs in my grocery budgeting I've now reached a {consistent} level I'm happy with; about £250 a month. Some months it's a little under, some it's a little over; last month {18th June - 17th July} I spent £255.71.
Are you happy with your grocery spending, do you find it easy to stick to a consistent budget?
Further reading;
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I once went through a stage of wanting to be a brilliant fancy cook, but soon got over it; it's just not me; I much prefer the Jamie Oliver simple approach to cooking; the easier the evening meal is to prepare the happier I am......and so it seems are my family :-)
Sticking to simple food choices can also keep your costs down, for example, a bowl of spaghetti with a homemade tomato sauce and ciabatta is filling and extremely cheap to make.
After many ups and downs in my grocery budgeting I've now reached a {consistent} level I'm happy with; about £250 a month. Some months it's a little under, some it's a little over; last month {18th June - 17th July} I spent £255.71.
Are you happy with your grocery spending, do you find it easy to stick to a consistent budget?
Further reading;
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22 July 2010
Personal Spending Report {18th June - 17th July}
Eek! Again my proposed budget for the last month looks nothing like my actual spending; please tell me I'm not the only one who does this..I didn't overspend I just allocated the money in different areas.
Spending:
£35.00 Haircut
£18.00 World Vision
£57.99 Books from Amazon
£10.00 Clothes
£120.99 Total
Do you guys plan your personal spending allowance {if you have one} or do you just record it as a miscellaneous amount in your budget to spend as you wish and not worry what it goes on?
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Spending:
£35.00 Haircut
£18.00 World Vision
£57.99 Books from Amazon
£10.00 Clothes
£120.99 Total
Do you guys plan your personal spending allowance {if you have one} or do you just record it as a miscellaneous amount in your budget to spend as you wish and not worry what it goes on?
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20 July 2010
Things to do Tuesday
My mind is spinning with things I need to do this week, mainly budget things, so here's my list;
- Do my personal budget for this month
- Restart my spending diary...failed at this again last month
- Work out {joint account} cash flow for the rest of the year
- Continue to build up my walks {increased distance significantly on holiday}
- Visit my Dad
- Lose 2 lbs
- Order these {3 for £3}
- Research Vancouver for October
- Re plant hanging baskets and cut the grass
19 July 2010
Menu Plan Monday {Easy week edition, again}
Hi all, I'm back from a week of semi indulgent eating; we ate breakfast in the holiday apartment every morning and then tended to eat out in the evenings; lunch was usually a baguette and fruit eaten in random spots around the Lisbon coast. Bread and fruit were very cheap so making our own lunch cost about two euros a day.
This week I'm back to proper menu planning and I've compiled a week of simple, easy meals.
Mon: Tomato Soup and Toasted Cheese Sandwich
Tue: Pasta Bolognaise
Wed: Leftover Bolognaise and ciabatta bread
Thu: Broccoli Quiche and New Potatoes
Fri: Salmon and Vegetables
Sat: Beef/Mushroom Burgers
Sun: Chicken Curry and Naan
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This week I'm back to proper menu planning and I've compiled a week of simple, easy meals.
Mon: Tomato Soup and Toasted Cheese Sandwich
Tue: Pasta Bolognaise
Wed: Leftover Bolognaise and ciabatta bread
Thu: Broccoli Quiche and New Potatoes
Fri: Salmon and Vegetables
Sat: Beef/Mushroom Burgers
Sun: Chicken Curry and Naan
For more menu plans visit I'm an Organizing Junkie
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14 July 2010
On mortgages and long term plans
Thank you for dropping by; I'm currently on holiday and unable to respond to any comments until the weekend :-)
If previous years are anything to go by I'm going to return from our week in Portugal with a renewed vigour to get going on our plans and move there as soon as possible; it happens every time; holidays are the perfect time to dream and set goals.
No doubt during our week away dh and I will discuss our mortgage and how to get rid of it; being mortgage free has always been our long term aim.
At the moment our mortgage debt stands at £117,799 and we have exactly 20 years of payments outstanding; in twenty years hubby will be 51 and I will be 65 ;-)
Our plan is to be mortgage {financially} free by 2030.
The question is how?
There are so many different scenarios; sell our house in the UK and buy outright a small and fairly cheap place in Portugal {still possible in some areas}; buy a house to run as an income producing business and overpay the mortgage; rent out our house in the UK, overpay the mortgage, ending it early and then have ongoing rental income.
A lot of this all depends on what happens in the next two years, however I know that hubby is very keen to start overpaying the mortgage again if I get a job; he'd like to reduce the term.
It's very easy to get caught up in short term planning, whereas we probably need to be thinking more about the long term.
Is your focus on the short term or do you constantly think long term?
If previous years are anything to go by I'm going to return from our week in Portugal with a renewed vigour to get going on our plans and move there as soon as possible; it happens every time; holidays are the perfect time to dream and set goals.
No doubt during our week away dh and I will discuss our mortgage and how to get rid of it; being mortgage free has always been our long term aim.
At the moment our mortgage debt stands at £117,799 and we have exactly 20 years of payments outstanding; in twenty years hubby will be 51 and I will be 65 ;-)
Our plan is to be mortgage {financially} free by 2030.
The question is how?
There are so many different scenarios; sell our house in the UK and buy outright a small and fairly cheap place in Portugal {still possible in some areas}; buy a house to run as an income producing business and overpay the mortgage; rent out our house in the UK, overpay the mortgage, ending it early and then have ongoing rental income.
A lot of this all depends on what happens in the next two years, however I know that hubby is very keen to start overpaying the mortgage again if I get a job; he'd like to reduce the term.
It's very easy to get caught up in short term planning, whereas we probably need to be thinking more about the long term.
Is your focus on the short term or do you constantly think long term?
11 July 2010
Sunday Link Round Up: 11th July 2010
Hello and happy Sunday! Here are some of the links I've enjoyed reading this week;
.....and from my other site Move To Portugal this week;
Have a great week and thank you for reading :-)
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- Make your own rules at Girl with the Red Balloon
- Reader Story: Debt Free by 30 including the mortgage at Get Rich Slowly
- The downsizing challenge at Early Retirement Extreme
- Bella on being present: 11 tips from my dog at Positively Present
- Working 5 to 9 at All Doors Considered
.....and from my other site Move To Portugal this week;
Have a great week and thank you for reading :-)
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10 July 2010
Weekend To Do {10th July 2010}
Hello and happy Saturday; what are your plans ths weekend? I'm busy packing for our holiday....and trying to keep my daughter from taking every single item of her clothing! We haven't paid for hold luggage as it's £18 per bag, we each have a carry on instead; simpler and cheaper.
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- Finish washing and ironing
- Pack cases
- Check travel forms, insurance, parking etc
- Sweep and clean through downstairs {does anyone else have to clean before they go on holiday?}
- Write list of instructions for son
- Check bank accounts and make sure money is where it should be before holidays
- Schedule posts for next week
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9 July 2010
Shopping is no longer a way to pass time
I realised this week after a trip to a shopping centre that I no longer see shopping as an event; a day out, a fun experience; It's now a job on my to do list.
I have about 30 items of clothes at the moment, a mixture of summer and winter and this amount works perfectly for me in the UK climate. However with a holiday to Portugal approaching and seven days of 27-30 degree heat I knew that I could do with a couple of extra vest tops...hence the shopping trip.
In the past I would of pencilled in [my diary] a whole day to look for new holiday clothes; I would have got some lunch, bought some coffee, bought some stuff I didn't need....generally spending a small fortune on my credit card; nowadays hubby drops me off outside, I run into the store, grab the tops, pay with cash and then run out again; it works for me lol!
Doing it like this means I avoid any extra temptation and is a good way to shop if you're trying to stop spending and get out do debt yourself; don't allow yourself to get drawn in to spending money.
What little things do you do to avoid spending money?
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I have about 30 items of clothes at the moment, a mixture of summer and winter and this amount works perfectly for me in the UK climate. However with a holiday to Portugal approaching and seven days of 27-30 degree heat I knew that I could do with a couple of extra vest tops...hence the shopping trip.
In the past I would of pencilled in [my diary] a whole day to look for new holiday clothes; I would have got some lunch, bought some coffee, bought some stuff I didn't need....generally spending a small fortune on my credit card; nowadays hubby drops me off outside, I run into the store, grab the tops, pay with cash and then run out again; it works for me lol!
Doing it like this means I avoid any extra temptation and is a good way to shop if you're trying to stop spending and get out do debt yourself; don't allow yourself to get drawn in to spending money.
What little things do you do to avoid spending money?
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8 July 2010
9 Reasons Why Dating Is A Lot Like Owning A Credit Card
This is a guest post from Alban a personal finance writer.
Spending money on ourselves and others has long been a way to make us feel good and since it's often argued that love and money make the world go around it is not surprising that we are able to compare the two. Psychologists say that the way we view money is largely determined by the way we were brought up with some families choosing to show love by buying gifts and other families seeing gift giving as unnecessary and frivolous. Unfortunately, financial incompatibility is one of the most dangerous threats to a relationship and partners who have the same attitude to money is quite rare. Listing both the pros and cons of owning a credit card and dating, here is what we came up with...
1. Your history can come back to bite you - If you have ever borrowed money or owned a credit card before, you have a history that shows potential lenders whether or not you are a good credit risk. It asks questions like: Did you pay your loan off ahead of time or were you late every month? How many credit cards you have? What is your job history? So like dating you'll want your history (and more importantly those who will remember it i.e. your friends and family) to include nice things that can be said about it. The simple rule with money and love is to treat them with respect. You work hard to buy nice things and spend your money as you wish so it deserves your careful consideration; and like dating, people have emotions and feelings so they deserve honesty and appreciation (as do you).
2. If you aren't careful the costs can add up - With $30 billion a year being billed to the accounts of credit card holders in extra fees, credit card companies will find a way to charge you for almost anything. So when you compare the costs of owning a credit card like Annual fees, Cash advance fees, Balance transfer fees, Late payment fees and Over the limit fees with the costs of dating... dinners, drinks, flowers, movies, birthdays and anniversaries (plus watch out for those hidden fees like "the anniversary of the first time you stayed over" or "the I need something new to wear for Aunty Joan's wedding") it is easy to accumulate unwanted debt.
A piece of advice is to avoid those dating websites. Don't pay money to talk to a computer screen, walk outside, go to a cafe or bar, interact and make connections with people. It will cost you $4 for a cup of coffee or a beer and you'll get to meet as many people as you want; rather than $19.95 for 4 "kisses" for you to find out the person you've been dating on the net for a year has chronic halitosis (medical term for bad breath, and yeah, there's a year of your life gone).
3. Having more than one at a time can make your life tough - When it comes to managing a credit card, like having a partner, it can sometimes get hard, so think carefully before you think about getting a second one. It is in our nature to like to see what else is out there, compare and contrast, but like dating more than one person, owning more than one credit card can have perks and drawbacks.
4. You might want to get out but can't! - Whether it's with a credit card contract or on a date, being locked in sucks. In the past, credit cards often refused to disclose their full terms and conditions until you had applied and been accepted. When the contract finally arrived, the most costly fees and penalties were usually hidden in 20 pages of fine print loaded with legal terms (which can be a lot like being on the date from hell). We always see in the movies that it's a good idea to have an emergency backup plan to get you out of a bad date. The iPhone even has Apps called "Fake Caller" and "Fake Text", which allow you to pick a contact from your phone and set a timer for your phone to ring or send a text. So just imagine the performance you're about to put on is what you want the audience to see when you're receiving your Oscar nomination, be a bit creative and you'll be fine.
5. You need to be a good negotiator to get what you want - Many people see credit card providers as daunting people to deal with, mainly because they are either a bank or financial company and can seem unapproachable. But what many people don't realise is that like getting to spend time with your mates, getting a golf game in, going to a footy game or reducing interest rates, it's all possible if you know what to say. The most important thing is to plan what you are going to say. When formerly bringing up the matter, it shouldn't be the first time the other party is hearing these feelings. Write down all the possible objections you might encounter and prepare well thought out answers that address any follow up questions and result in win/win outcomes. For example, "Hey Honey, I might go to the footy on Sunday, since you've got Emma's baby shower and then I'll have enough time to pick us up some food from your favourite place and rent that DVD you wanted to see". Or consequently "Hello Sir, I'd like to change the due date of my bill from the first of the month to mid-month. I have always paid my bills on time, however my new Accountancy job pays in arrears and as a long serving and loyal customer it would be of benefit to both of us".
6. The rewards are sweet! – Getting rewarded for using your credit card means you get to earn something back for your spending. These can be redeemed in various ways and like dating; getting to know someone, enjoying the time you spend together and the possibility of finding love can be a reward in itself. While credit card rewards are more material, like cashback offers, merchandise and frequent flyer miles, dating rewards us emotionally and spiritually (which is equally desirable). However, in a similar fashion regarding our two topics of comparison, we shouldn't be fooled into thinking we will get something for nothing. It is ill-advised to spend unnecessarily to earn points and equally unwise to create unrealistic expectations from dating.
7. There are plenty out there - Great news when comparing credit cards or looking for a date. Your financial situation may not warrant you a Platinum Amex with a $100,000 limit but you can be sure there is a plan tailor made for you; just like there is someone out there for everyone. It is recommended for your credit card you do your research and try new places and new things to find dates. That way when you’re onto a good thing, you’ll know it!
8. It is good for you! – Spending money (within your means of course) is good for the economy and meeting people and dating is good for your confidence and development. It’s no coincidence that governments are always promoting consumer stimulus packages and social events for the entire population. When we spend money, our economy booms and this raises our currency’s worth and attracts other countries to trade with us. Equally, meeting people from different countries is a great chance to boost our tourism levels but more personally find love in a place you would never have thought to visit.
9. You need to choose the best one for you - It all comes down to this. The great thing about credit cards and dating are you can take your time to make the best choice. Looking for someone with common interests is like looking for a card that works with how you spend. A partnership where you enjoy doing things for each other should be like a card that rewards you for spending, saving, loyalty and punctuality.
Alban is personal finance writer. He helps people to use their credit card wisely and find the best credit card for their needs.
Spending money on ourselves and others has long been a way to make us feel good and since it's often argued that love and money make the world go around it is not surprising that we are able to compare the two. Psychologists say that the way we view money is largely determined by the way we were brought up with some families choosing to show love by buying gifts and other families seeing gift giving as unnecessary and frivolous. Unfortunately, financial incompatibility is one of the most dangerous threats to a relationship and partners who have the same attitude to money is quite rare. Listing both the pros and cons of owning a credit card and dating, here is what we came up with...
1. Your history can come back to bite you - If you have ever borrowed money or owned a credit card before, you have a history that shows potential lenders whether or not you are a good credit risk. It asks questions like: Did you pay your loan off ahead of time or were you late every month? How many credit cards you have? What is your job history? So like dating you'll want your history (and more importantly those who will remember it i.e. your friends and family) to include nice things that can be said about it. The simple rule with money and love is to treat them with respect. You work hard to buy nice things and spend your money as you wish so it deserves your careful consideration; and like dating, people have emotions and feelings so they deserve honesty and appreciation (as do you).
2. If you aren't careful the costs can add up - With $30 billion a year being billed to the accounts of credit card holders in extra fees, credit card companies will find a way to charge you for almost anything. So when you compare the costs of owning a credit card like Annual fees, Cash advance fees, Balance transfer fees, Late payment fees and Over the limit fees with the costs of dating... dinners, drinks, flowers, movies, birthdays and anniversaries (plus watch out for those hidden fees like "the anniversary of the first time you stayed over" or "the I need something new to wear for Aunty Joan's wedding") it is easy to accumulate unwanted debt.
A piece of advice is to avoid those dating websites. Don't pay money to talk to a computer screen, walk outside, go to a cafe or bar, interact and make connections with people. It will cost you $4 for a cup of coffee or a beer and you'll get to meet as many people as you want; rather than $19.95 for 4 "kisses" for you to find out the person you've been dating on the net for a year has chronic halitosis (medical term for bad breath, and yeah, there's a year of your life gone).
3. Having more than one at a time can make your life tough - When it comes to managing a credit card, like having a partner, it can sometimes get hard, so think carefully before you think about getting a second one. It is in our nature to like to see what else is out there, compare and contrast, but like dating more than one person, owning more than one credit card can have perks and drawbacks.
4. You might want to get out but can't! - Whether it's with a credit card contract or on a date, being locked in sucks. In the past, credit cards often refused to disclose their full terms and conditions until you had applied and been accepted. When the contract finally arrived, the most costly fees and penalties were usually hidden in 20 pages of fine print loaded with legal terms (which can be a lot like being on the date from hell). We always see in the movies that it's a good idea to have an emergency backup plan to get you out of a bad date. The iPhone even has Apps called "Fake Caller" and "Fake Text", which allow you to pick a contact from your phone and set a timer for your phone to ring or send a text. So just imagine the performance you're about to put on is what you want the audience to see when you're receiving your Oscar nomination, be a bit creative and you'll be fine.
5. You need to be a good negotiator to get what you want - Many people see credit card providers as daunting people to deal with, mainly because they are either a bank or financial company and can seem unapproachable. But what many people don't realise is that like getting to spend time with your mates, getting a golf game in, going to a footy game or reducing interest rates, it's all possible if you know what to say. The most important thing is to plan what you are going to say. When formerly bringing up the matter, it shouldn't be the first time the other party is hearing these feelings. Write down all the possible objections you might encounter and prepare well thought out answers that address any follow up questions and result in win/win outcomes. For example, "Hey Honey, I might go to the footy on Sunday, since you've got Emma's baby shower and then I'll have enough time to pick us up some food from your favourite place and rent that DVD you wanted to see". Or consequently "Hello Sir, I'd like to change the due date of my bill from the first of the month to mid-month. I have always paid my bills on time, however my new Accountancy job pays in arrears and as a long serving and loyal customer it would be of benefit to both of us".
6. The rewards are sweet! – Getting rewarded for using your credit card means you get to earn something back for your spending. These can be redeemed in various ways and like dating; getting to know someone, enjoying the time you spend together and the possibility of finding love can be a reward in itself. While credit card rewards are more material, like cashback offers, merchandise and frequent flyer miles, dating rewards us emotionally and spiritually (which is equally desirable). However, in a similar fashion regarding our two topics of comparison, we shouldn't be fooled into thinking we will get something for nothing. It is ill-advised to spend unnecessarily to earn points and equally unwise to create unrealistic expectations from dating.
7. There are plenty out there - Great news when comparing credit cards or looking for a date. Your financial situation may not warrant you a Platinum Amex with a $100,000 limit but you can be sure there is a plan tailor made for you; just like there is someone out there for everyone. It is recommended for your credit card you do your research and try new places and new things to find dates. That way when you’re onto a good thing, you’ll know it!
8. It is good for you! – Spending money (within your means of course) is good for the economy and meeting people and dating is good for your confidence and development. It’s no coincidence that governments are always promoting consumer stimulus packages and social events for the entire population. When we spend money, our economy booms and this raises our currency’s worth and attracts other countries to trade with us. Equally, meeting people from different countries is a great chance to boost our tourism levels but more personally find love in a place you would never have thought to visit.
9. You need to choose the best one for you - It all comes down to this. The great thing about credit cards and dating are you can take your time to make the best choice. Looking for someone with common interests is like looking for a card that works with how you spend. A partnership where you enjoy doing things for each other should be like a card that rewards you for spending, saving, loyalty and punctuality.
Alban is personal finance writer. He helps people to use their credit card wisely and find the best credit card for their needs.
7 July 2010
I passed the telephone interview..
That job I applied for a couple of weeks ago, well I passed the telephone interview! Yay!
I'm so happy to get to interview stage as I thought my previous salary might put the company off, it seems not thankfully.........now I just have to interview well!
Fingers crossed I get the job :-)
I'm so happy to get to interview stage as I thought my previous salary might put the company off, it seems not thankfully.........now I just have to interview well!
Fingers crossed I get the job :-)
6 July 2010
July 2010 Net Worth {£862}
Not good this month. There's a story about pigeons and chimney restacking that needs to be told, so suffice to say we had to pay for some house repairs
Net Worth {£100,000k = $151,793k on today's exchange rate}
Assets:
Cash £12,295
House £180,656 {Source: Zoopla}
Personal £3,125
Small Pension £1,009
Total: £197,085
Liabilities:
Mortgage £117,799
Total: £117,799
Net Worth: £79,286 {US $120,342}*
Due to the exchange rates the amount went up in US dollars!! :-)
**All figures are in British pounds {££} and our main pension funds are not included, {we just have an amount we will receive at 65} which skews the total amount somewhat, but I'm not sure how I can include them.
Net Worth {£100,000k = $151,793k on today's exchange rate}
Assets:
Cash £12,295
House £180,656 {Source: Zoopla}
Personal £3,125
Small Pension £1,009
Total: £197,085
Liabilities:
Mortgage £117,799
Total: £117,799
Net Worth: £79,286 {US $120,342}*
Due to the exchange rates the amount went up in US dollars!! :-)
**All figures are in British pounds {££} and our main pension funds are not included, {we just have an amount we will receive at 65} which skews the total amount somewhat, but I'm not sure how I can include them.
5 July 2010
Menu Plan Monday {Easy Meals Week}
My husband is on holiday from work this week so it's going to be harder to stick to the budget; but I'm going to try! :-)
Mon: Bacon, Lettuce, Tomato Sandwiches {Avocado, Lettuce Tomato for me}
Tue: Pork and Caramelised Red Onion Sausages with New Potatoes and Broccoli
Wed: Pizza and Salad
Thu: Pasta and Ciabatta
Fri: Eggs probably scrambled on seeded bread
Sat: Curry and Rice
We're going to Portugal next Sunday so dinner will be eaten over there.
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Mon: Bacon, Lettuce, Tomato Sandwiches {Avocado, Lettuce Tomato for me}
Tue: Pork and Caramelised Red Onion Sausages with New Potatoes and Broccoli
Wed: Pizza and Salad
Thu: Pasta and Ciabatta
Fri: Eggs probably scrambled on seeded bread
Sat: Curry and Rice
We're going to Portugal next Sunday so dinner will be eaten over there.
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3 July 2010
Shouts outs and top referring sites June 2010
Instead of a link round up this week I wanted to send out a big thank you to all the subscribers of this blog; new readers and regular long time readers; hello and welcome, I really appreciate your support. I'd love it if you said hello in the comments :-)
This blog has been growing and the traffic stats in June were the highest ever, I'm so pleased, and would like to thank every site that sent readers my way; special thanks goes out to the top five referrers listed below;
Just to let you know on Move To Portugal this week I've posted my July Mini Goals and I've included a Mr Linky to link my goals up with other bloggers; please go on over and take a look; if you posted your goals this month then why not link up, we can all encourage each other :-)
Have a great weekend!
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This blog has been growing and the traffic stats in June were the highest ever, I'm so pleased, and would like to thank every site that sent readers my way; special thanks goes out to the top five referrers listed below;
- I'm an Organising Junkie
- Shaking the Money Tree
- Grocery Coupon Guide
- Give Me Back My Five Bucks
- My Pretty Pennies
Just to let you know on Move To Portugal this week I've posted my July Mini Goals and I've included a Mr Linky to link my goals up with other bloggers; please go on over and take a look; if you posted your goals this month then why not link up, we can all encourage each other :-)
Have a great weekend!
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2 July 2010
Extra Money Earned: June 2010
Overall from different sources my goal is to generate at least £2,010 of extra income in 2010. This money can either be passive or alternative.
June earnings:
£94.35 Amazon
£28.72 eBay
£30.00 Surveys
£25.94 Interest
£16.36 Blog income
£4.50 Cashback
£199.87 Total
Total so far in 2010 £1,107.48/£2,010
So I have £902.52 to reach my target
My long term goal is to make £500 a month in alternative and passive income. For the first six months of 2010, from online income and savings interest {I'm not counting personal items sold} I've made £415.66 { £69.27 a month} A long way from goal but a start :-)
Let me know, do you have passive income goals? If so, how are you doing?
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June earnings:
£94.35 Amazon
£28.72 eBay
£30.00 Surveys
£25.94 Interest
£16.36 Blog income
£4.50 Cashback
£199.87 Total
Total so far in 2010 £1,107.48/£2,010
So I have £902.52 to reach my target
My long term goal is to make £500 a month in alternative and passive income. For the first six months of 2010, from online income and savings interest {I'm not counting personal items sold} I've made £415.66 { £69.27 a month} A long way from goal but a start :-)
Let me know, do you have passive income goals? If so, how are you doing?
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